I made a personal decision to just go ahead and be submissive. [...] It was freeing and peaceful to just let go and trust him. [My husband] pointed out [that] he's dominant and I'm submissive... (I cook his favourites; I perform any small errands he needs me to do; I rarely, if ever, deny him sex, etc.) And he went on to describe our marriage as a ship: he's the captain and I'm first mate... And if the first mate doesn't carry out the orders of the captain then it's hard to keep the ship sailing. Similarly, if the captain doesn't listen to the first mate about the situations on the ship, he can't issue any orders effectively.” - Bonnie